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Forget Drake...Maybe You Do Need New Friends

Being an only child, I am absolutely used to doing things on my own. Being a person who is picky about their friends forces me to do many things alone as well. It's not that I judge people it's just that like everything else in my life, I have standards and expectations for my friends. I have no problem at all lessening the intensity of a relationship if it is not meeting up to my criteria. 

No I am not stuck up or a narcissist, as I have so frequently been called. I just understand the importance of surrounding yourself with like-minded people, and am trying to help you do the same as well.

So when exactly should you start finding some new pals? 

First on my list: when you and your friends cannot go to church together. Religion is a huge part of my life. I shouldn't have to be afraid to ask my friends to pray with me and for me. And if I ask them to pray for me, I should be confident in knowing that their answer will be "I already have." Not only should you include God in your intimate relationships, but He should be incorporated in your friendships as well. "Without God, nothing is possible." You cannot expect to successfully get to the other side (person) if you have not allowed God to come in and build a bridge. 

Another sign that you should find new friends is when you are ascending the ladder of success and your friends are descending.  If you look around and see yourself making improvements to your life and your buddies are just watching, it's time to find a new crew. Everyone in my close circle has to be doing something to improve themselves. They have to always be moving up instead of moving down. And yes, remaining dormant or at the same place in life counts as moving down. If you and your crew are constantly striving for excellence then you all have the ability to keep each other encouraged. I should be able to look at you, see you growing and want to grow right along with you. You should be able to look at me, see me falling, and help me get back on the right track. 

Ever heard the sayings "you are who you hang out with," or "tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are?" What about "birds of a feather flock together?" It is so easy for a person to get off track and go down the wrong path. The people who you allow to take up space in your life have a greater affect on you than you realize. What are your values? What are your goals? Do the people in your circle share the same or similar ones? Are you trying to grow? If so, is your crew growing with you or watching you?

Take a minute to evaluate all relationships in your life. You don't have to burn down every single bridge, just think about asking God to build some new ones. 

xoxo, 

The Queen