4 Things I Learned After Losing My Grandma
Losing someone you love is one of the worst pains that can be felt by a human. It is an unexplainable incurable heart break and no, time does not heal this wound.
If you’ve ever lost someone, you understand how hard the grieving and healing process can be. My grandmother, who raised me, passed away after a 7-month fight of cancer. It is still hard for me to fathom the fact that she no longer a phone call away.
Although her death has been extremely difficult to deal with, it has taught me just a few lessons that I will carry with me for some time.
1. It never gets easier, you just learn how to deal with the pain. People love to tell you that time heals all wounds, when they’ve never randomly cried after losing their loved one….3 years ago. It’s never going to get easier. The pain is never going to go away, but, you will learn how to deal with it. Instead of crying for 4 hours straight, you’ll cry for an hour and learn to surround yourself with happy thoughts and supportive people.
2. Be present and cherish every moment. Looking back, I can remember times where I wish I would’ve stayed home to spend more time with my grandma, or sat in her hospital room a little longer instead of running off with friends. Don’t wait until it’s too late to appreciate the time that you have with the person you love. Spend quality time with them, no cell phones and no distractions.
3. Yes, you love them, but they are not your ENTIRE world. I recognize that I placed my grandma on an extremely high pedestal. I loved her SO much. But I had to remember that my grandma is not the one who can heal a broken heart and restore joy when everything has been lost. Losing my grandma forced me to put my total trust in Christ and lean on Him for EVERYTHING.
4. Find your own process of grieving and healing. There are a lot of opinions on how to properly grieve and heal. But everyone is unique. The only advice I can give you, is to at least be sure to take time to properly grieve. And then start the process of healing. Let your tears flow freely. Find people who don’t mind listening to you express your emotions.
I know first hand how hard it can be to lose someone. Know that I am sincerely praying for you and your healing.