For The 20-somethings Still Finding Themselves

For The 20-somethings Still Finding Themselves

I absolutely loathe the phrase “finding yourself.” 

Like it honestly feels insulting. 

And what does that even mean?? So you mean to tell me…because I’m still figuring out what I want to do and how I want to impact the world that makes me a lost soul waiting on my physical body to stop playing hide-and-seek? 

I know who I am. I can’t say I was never lost, but I found myself when I found Jesus. 

People use this phrase a lot for people who are making choices that they themselves either don’t agree with or don’t understand. When actuality we (I’m speaking on behalf of the collective of people deemed to be finding themselves) actually know who we are. We are confident in our identity. It’s not that we’ve lost ourselves or have yet to be united with our true self. We are just still on a path of discovering our purpose. 

And if finding yourself means that you’re trying to figure out what you want to do, would that mean everyone on earth is still “finding themselves?” 

I mean honestly. Life is about choices and deciding on what your next step will be. No matter how old you are or what life stage you are in, you’re always forced with the task of deciding whats next.

Yes, I’m 25 and No I Don’t Know The Meaning of Life

I am real life mad at how everyone makes you think and feel like you're supposed to have life figure out by 25. I'm almost 25 and a half and I'm just now starting to really tap into what I'm actually supposed to be doing. 

Like, I though I had it all figured out. And looking back, it was definitely a forced decision because I was too embarrassed to be "finding myself" this late in the game.

I feel like people put pressure on you to have your entire life planned out by the time you reach your late 20s. Which is why I, and a few of my friends, have shared in mini pity-parties lately over where we are in life. 

Society says that we should have thriving careers or businesses that are launching. We should be starting families, buying houses, and mentoring the next generation of leaders. 

Wow, typing that felt like I was describing the life of a mid-30 to 40-something-year-old. 

If you’re reading this and you’re in your late 20s, then you know exactly what I’m talking about. 

If you’re reading this and you’re well past your late 20s….STOP DOING THIS TO US! WE IS TIRED! 

Stop making us feel bad for where we are in life when in fact we are EXACTLY where we are supposed to be. You are not the author of time, God is. You don’t (and most definitely can’t) write our story; only He can.

Stop telling us that we’re finding ourselves. We know who we are. We’re not missing or broken. In fact, we’re so sure of who we are, that we know our worth and won’t settle in any area of our lives. 

Stop looking down on us because we make decisions that you don’t agree with. It’s okay; we don’t agree with the fact that your generation still uses landline phones in a house but to each its own. 

To everyone being told that you’re still finding yourself, remind the world that you know who you are and tell them where they can go find themselves. :) 



Who Are You?

Who Are You?